a picture from our walk this evening
As a Mom I talk a lot about choices with my daughter. Recently it hit me that as adults we forget that we too have choices. And I'm not talking about the choices like what we wear, eat and drink. Everyday I'm faced with tons of choices I didn't realize were there.
I have a choice to get angry at the guy that cut me off on the freeway, I have a choice on how to react to my dog barking incessantly, it's a choice to give up on a project when it doesn't go right the first time (then blame every thing on that) and it's a choice to let people make me mad, happy or sad. In my life I've not always seen this... Ever hear people use the phrase, "I had no choice but to___".
I feel in my life a lot of how I (have chosen) to react comes from selfishness. I see these things be done to me instead of just happening. Dogs bark because they're dogs not because they are put on this earth to drive me crazy. I have to admit seeing all these choices doesn't necessarily make it easy to respond in the "proper" way all the time. However, it's made my day to day life easier to handle...
I couldn't write this piece without writing about the lyrics to John Lennon's, "Watching the Wheels". If you don't know the song or the lyrics do yourself a favor and listen to the song or read the lyrics... I loved this song because if I remember correctly (I have no idea where I heard, read or saw this) the last part of the song is the noise of his and Yoko's home in the AM (breakfast cooking, radio, etc.). His guy had access to everything money could buy and all he wanted to do we be at home in his kitchen with his family. Wow. I guess I can't be that mad at Yoko anymore...
Ok back to my original point. After listening to this song maybe hundreds of times my new favorite line is, "there's no problem only solutions". We can focus on the problem (and stay there) or choose to look for a solution (and move forward)... I sort of feel like this is all stuff I should of known by now but some how forgot it along the way. Or just didn't always applied it...
By the way I just celebrated my birthday. Hence the looking for answers on my journey.